Aunt Fancy

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  Could the JWs sway you back...?

  by new22day in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  op based on mr. freeze's topic - could attending the meetings/studying again sway any of you back to the org.

  hearing the propaganda over and over again is pretty powerful i'm sure.

  (i'm a non-jw, non-christian (no offense), stubborn as a bull and even i had moments of pause based on some of the doctrine (lasted 30 seconds) but i never had family/friends at stake or a background in this.

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  We could never go back. Once we found out about the lies and their treatment of child abuse that did it for us. We feel if we stayed then we would be part of their lies. I really feel for those that know what the truth is and they are staying because they would lose their loved ones. I don't know how they do it, I would go nuts listening to that garbage all of the time.
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  Is a slow fade being selfish when you have kids?

  by dissonance_resolved in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i got some great advice to take things very slowly with the husband and kids in order to be able to fade and still maintain contact with my parents and siblings.

  but today i got a call from my son's teacher that he was having a meltdown because he was worried about all his friends and teachers being destroyed at armageddon.... first i felt like such a schmuck for ever having allowed that thought to enter my son's head, then i thought, is it psychological torture for me not to immediately correct the situation?

  i had a long talk with him about how god is perfectly just and full of love and he didn't have to worry about that at all, but it still seemed lukewarm.

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  My heart goes out to you. You are doing the right thing by talking to his teacher and looking into counceling. The fact that you are not ignoring this and trying to find a solution shows you are a loving mother.
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  Hello

  by newdawnfades in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am a long time lurker who has finally decided to post.

  i am still in along with my wife, kids and extended family.

  i am in my 40s and was raised in the org.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Welcome! Take it slow and make the best decision for you and your family so you can have a happy and fulfilling life!
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  How do I tell my husband?

  by dissonance_resolved in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i'm a born in, baptized as a young teenager, whole family is jw.

  i just recently woke up after the new understanding of the fds was announced and it seemed to me to smack of power-grabbing.

  i started looking at all the websites we're not supposed to, and now i know why.

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  Hi Lois, we have helped his cousin, his former business partner and two childhood friends so far. We want to help his niece by flying her here for a visit with us so we can talk to her in person. They are all very thankful we gave them the book to read because they were haunted for years by the crazy beliefs. We aren't sure what we are going to do next. One of the wives who was never a JW asked me "how did you know that this has haunted him"? She said for years it has been eating at him because he was DF at 15 years of age! Needless to say they were so thankful and so we hope he now will have some peace of mind.
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  An elder called me.

  by Julia Orwell in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  an elder who handled the minor matter with my husband a few weeks ago called to see how we were doing.

  this guy genuinely is a gentle, kind, man whom the congregation loves.

  he's the one everyone approaches because he never judges or condescends.

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  We see a therapist and she told us that you take a month for every year (I am pretty sure this is the correct amount) that you were in and that is approximately how long it will take to recover from it. It is an up and down process but don't give up, keep searching and doing the work it takes to become whole again. Sometimes I get so angry I want to scream, you just want it to go away.
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  How do I tell my husband?

  by dissonance_resolved in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i'm a born in, baptized as a young teenager, whole family is jw.

  i just recently woke up after the new understanding of the fds was announced and it seemed to me to smack of power-grabbing.

  i started looking at all the websites we're not supposed to, and now i know why.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I started to read the books first and my husband was an elder and a born in with many generations on both sides. He was at the point where he was sick of the mid week meetings and he had questions. When I started to read I would tell him some things that upset me and he came back at me with the canned answer which I relied "that is what they said you would say". He said alright, I will read the book. He read three chapters of Crisis of Conscience and said he was done with the religion. You never know what has been going through your husbands mind, he could be having doubts too and you just don't realize it. I hope you can get him out because life is much better with your mate out with you!
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  Westboro Brainwashing...

  by NeverKnew in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  are her words familiar?.

  http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_c3#/video/us/2013/03/05/pmt-drain-ex-member-westboro-baptist-church.cnn.

  edit to add video... i hope (i've never done this).. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khsdvptmgfo.

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  I watched her on a show and she said her family has nothing to do with her because she left. When I saw her it reminded me of the Witnesses, so sad but glad she came to her senses.
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  Re: Will you attend the Memorial this year? Why? Why not?

  by check in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  you all had some interesting thoughts on that jw memorial thread.

  some of you mentioned that you are going so that you can set some sort of example.

  i gather that some of you believe that by going and eating, you are somehow showing them they can (or should) do it too.. that really confuses me.

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  Last year was our last and I had a panic attack, I couldn't get out of there fast enough. After that I went to one more Sunday meeting and Friday of the DC and that was it for hubby and me! I will never go back and if we choose to celebrate the memorial we will do it from the comforts of our home.
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  POLL: How long did you remain a JW from point of baptism to leaving the KH

  by Terry in

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  2. friends

  i was baptised --1963. left in 1978. fifteen years.

  pre-baptism, another 5 years.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Baptized at 31 and left after 26 years! Too many lost years!
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  Evil Elderettes, the true Hounds of Hell!

  by Bubblegum Apotheosis in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my wife was told a brother was going to be disfellowshiped, "how do you know this is going to happen?

  " sister so-so said "he was not repentant or humble to the brother's kindness.

  " instead of engaging into a heated debate, she knew who the leak was, so-so's husband.

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  Aunt Fancy

  My husband was an elder for years and he never told me a thing not even what book study we were assigned to when they changed. I never asked either or looked at any info. I also didn't hear a lot of things but I wasn't out in FS during the week much but I have heard there is a lot of gossip with certain ones. Even now that we are out he hasn't gone back and told me private things and I wouldn't feel right in asking. I do know there is one cong overseer that tells way too much and it always bothered me, his wife is a pioneer and I am sure she knows everything. Nothing surprises me after everything I have read.